Posts Tagged ‘positive experience

21
Aug
09

“put condom on”

“I never had any formal sex education until freshman orientation at my small southern liberal arts college. All incoming students were required to attend the session. I don’t remember everything that was discussed, but it was led by a very open, outgoing, and frank counselor who was well-loved on campus. One activity was about the necessary steps in having sex with a condom. 8-10 volunteers were given cards that contained different steps of the process, things like “ejaculate,” “thrusting,” “foreplay,” “take condom off,” “penis gets hard,” “put condom on,” etc, and the students had to arrange themselves so the steps were in the correct order. While now it seems silly and obvious, I remember at the time, some of it was definitely new information.”

19
Aug
09

What’s a ‘g spot’?

Out of the various snippets of how I learned about sex, one instance stands out as informative and positive.

It was the summer before or after 8th grade and I was at a week-long regional Methodist church youth summit. Each day we could sign up for different “classes” on a range of topics. One class was about sex–led by an elderly couple. I signed up with a friend with much anticipation and giggling. The sign-up sheet filled up to the maximum. This couple was great: open and honest and not trying to preach about behavior. They talked about sex as a positive and enjoyable thing. They also let us write questions on notecards. The only one I remember was “what’s a g spot”? They didn’t know the answer but promised to follow up – and they did.